With several of my new clients, our initial conversations often include the question, “What’s wrong with me?” I have asked myself and my therapist that same question so many times. In the old days, I would ask the question and then eat a TON of chocolate. Today, I want to share with you what I have learned in hopes that it will support you.
I have learned that THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU, NEVER HAS BEEN AND NEVER WILL BE. We are all evolutionary beings on this earth plane to learn to navigate our spiritual nature and human experience. It is not for the faint of heart. YES, we are spiritual and YES, we are intuitive, and YES we are guided in every moment. AND……this human stuff is filled with life challenges, familial and generational STUFF and mis-steps. I don’t believe we make mistakes. I believe we make choices that can give us hard lessons. The question becomes are you learning the lessons and growing OR do you continue to travel down the same paths wanting a different result. YOU ARE IN CHARGE.
I was once really unhappy in a relationship AND I kept staying hoping I could do something or be something to let that person know I was worthy of their love. I kept trying to identify what was wrong with me so I could fix it. PHOOOEY (yes that is a spiritual phrase.) There was nothing wrong with me OR YOU. The relationship was simply NOT A FIT. I had to love myself enough to catch that truth. I do and so can you.
Wherever you are in your life….if it is not working….it is not a time to beat yourself up….it is a time to move into introspection and inquiry. Ask yourself:
- Who are you really?
- What do you value?
- What do you deserve?
- How are you treating yourself?
ONCE YOU ANSWER THOSE QUESTIONS……WORK ON CHANGING YOUR THINKING, CHOOSE DIFFERENTLY AND CREATE SUPPORTIVE HABITS.
Let me repeat… THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. NEVER HAS BEEN – NEVER WILL BE. Love yourself and reveal the truth.
Love and Blessings,
Cynthia
